My partner is never at home

psychologial and physical well-being relationship

In the short or long term, too much distance in relationships leads to conflicts. It needs a great deal of attention to handle this correctly.

There are various reasons why someone in a relationship feels alone too much. It could be frequent foreign business trips, a long-distance relationship or a relationship in which you don’t live in the same house and one of the two needs more time for themselves or maybe children from a previous relationship.

“These circumstances are all very difficult and need a great deal of attention,” says Kerin Stephanides. Often the person who feels alone then exerts pressure on the other person, and both parties suffer. Jealousy often plays a role here too, because you don’t actually know whether your partner is being faithful when they’re not there. A lot of trust is needed, plenty of discussions and frequent telephone contact.

The first step when frustration occurs is a discussion of the situation where the couple speak openly and honestly about how they’re feeling and why. The topic needs to be addressed directly. “Don’t beat around the bush. Be clear that you’re frustrated and not happy in your current life situation,” Stephanides explains.

It could also be helpful to agree a time frame: when could it be possible to do more together? When could we change the situation so we can spend more time just the two of us.

Anyone who is looking for a professional to help them with this discussion can contact one of the Austrian family counselling centres. You can use the search engine on our website to find a suitable centre near you. Make a free appointment!